Jun 29 2009
The message was clear.
There is something that has been troubling me in the past couple of weeks. That “something” is quite a thing that I would normally dispel. But most recently, I found myself thinking more and more about it and it is really affecting the way I think and the way I react to people.
Have you ever met someone in your life for the first time and yet instantly, you feel that they dislike you? For no apparent reason… it’s just that “they hate you”.
I personally don’t understand how people can hate anyone they don’t know. Is it because of the way they look? The way they talk? What is it about them that they hate?
That happened to me recently. Someone whom I don’t even know, reacted to me as if I was her most hated rival. I have never done anything to this person (like I said, I don’t even know her). What bothers me is the fact that she has pre-conceived notions about me and that I am being treated unfairly “just because”.
What gives?
I can count the number of times this has happened to me on two hands, and I can assure you that it never gets any easier to deal with. I have often found that it’s always the other person who has had the power to include or exclude me from their social circle, and all because they’ve decided what they want to make of me in their eyes. Not only is it frustrating, but it also robs me of any chance of a “hearing” so that the “jury” might not find me guilty of whatever that person (or “prosecutor”) has decided that I am. A bit of a convoluted way to put it I suppose, but that’s how it’s often made me feel. In the end, I’ve learned to just walk away. Some battles just aren’t worth fighting I’m afraid.
Hi Tony. Thanks! You are right! Some battles aren’t worth fighting. Just like you – I have learned to walk away from it as well. It’s not our loss – - it’s theirs. That’s how I look at it.