Thanks for letting me know.

By the way, I was having much difficulty accessing your site.

Thank you,
cc

Transparency about your emotions, your expectations for the relationship, and… well, just transparency in general. If a potential life partner doesn’t want to be around for life and they’re willing to admit that to you, then they’ve done you a great service, because then you can begin seeking elsewhere for someone who will be in it for the long haul.

When one thinks about it in that sense, then one realises that, fundamentally, perhaps gays and heteros are not so different after all.

I like what you said here. It is true… there really is no difference… we, as humans create the differences. Thanks again Tony! I love the way you write.

Yes, I do have a gay-friendly church that I visit from time to time. I do get the support and I’m comfortable with it. I just can’t reconcile some of the “accepted norms” in the gay community to my own views. One of them is “open relationships”.

Thanks for the comforting words. It’s true. Just like what the bible said – someone has already been through anything that we’re going through… – I just don’t remember the book, chapter and verse.

Yes, I am very interested. Please let me know and I will visit your blog. I’m flattered with your words of kindness… I really thought no one was reading my blog.

I am a Christian heterosexual female, so I can’t pretend in the least bit that I understand what it feels like. But, I can understand the feeling of not wanting to be out, letting people know who I really am. It will come or not and neither one really makes a difference. Such as, some Christians are quite vocal and others make a quiet difference. I struggle with my accepting who I am everyday and am working on saying and doing what I want to do despite the opinion of others.

Like heterosexual relationships, the Bible calls for monogamy. I believe that having an open relationship is sinful no matter if it is a homosexual relationship or heterosexual relationship. However, they could still be my friends.

The question “will I get together with someone?” is being wondered by thousand if not millons of single people around the world. However, you do have less to choose from. But, just like heterosexual men, you run into those who are “whores.” But, not everyone is like that. I know several gay men who have been in committed relationships for years. I don’t know how old you are, but I met my husband when I was in my 30s and we have been happily married for 12 years. Group activities are helpful with perhaps a few people…in the heterosexual world, group “dating” is quite popular.

Nothing is wrong with you, but you struggle with the same issues that heterosexuals do. However, you do have the added difficulty of being Christian and Gay. Do you go to a gay friendly church? Great way to meet someone, at least a very good friend.

If you are interested, I will be posting an article about how I went from being a Christian thinking that homosexuality was a sin to being a gay rights supporter. Just let me know and I’ll let you know when I post it. BTW, I have been following your blog for a while just under the radar.

Blessings,
cc

Sure, a man could leave a woman after 25 years of a monogamous relationship, and society would have derogative things to say about that, and some justified things to say for that matter. The gay person? Well, I tend to think that society wouldn’t even have the expectation, whether rightly or wrongly, that the relationship would never ever become that serious to begin with. The expectation would be that homosexuals know nothing of commitment to begin with; that their particular lifestyle, by definition, precludes it. This, of course, is nonsense, because everyone, gay and straight, surely just wants to love and to be loved. This is a basic human need. We’re made that way.

So, yes, valid question on the “open relationship” thing. Can such a thing ever truly work? I have to confess that I would not be at all happy to invite anyone into that special intimacy that wifey and I share. I’m not a jealous control freak by any stretch of the imagination, but this is a case where three (or more) is most definitely a crowd! On that basis alone, I would have to reject any notion of having an open relationship. No way. No how.

So, for you, in whose shoes I have not walked, I can’t even begin to imagine how you would tackle this issue. I can only imagine that for any relationship that transparency is the key. Transparency about your emotions, your expectations for the relationship, and… well, just transparency in general. If a potential life partner doesn’t want to be around for life and they’re willing to admit that to you, then they’ve done you a great service, because then you can begin seeking elsewhere for someone who will be in it for the long haul.

When one thinks about it in that sense, then one realises that, fundamentally, perhaps gays and heteros are not so different after all.