Dec 05 2009
Is homosexuality a choice?
I believe that I’ve written about this before. I grew up knowing that I am a homosexual even before I knew what the word meant. Coming from a brood of 10 children, it was more likely for a family of that size to have at least one homosexual person… and that person is me.
When I started feeling this way, I remember looking up the word homosexual from those huge Encyclopaedia Britannica books (if you remember them, it kinda ages us a bit. LOL). I tried to understand why people fall in love (or lust) after the same sex. I was confused.
I carried that confusion all the way through college. It was something that I couldn’t grasp. My uber-religious backgroud based on Christianity even made me feel worse. It was supposed to be a sin and something that I shouldn’t be feeling. But I did.
That would take me years before I meet someone who explained it to me in real terms. In religious terms. I cannot find that person anymore, but he was the most beautiful creature to me. He was able to make me see that God loves me for who I am. And through him, God manifested Himself to make me understand that I am God’s project.
Take a look at this video and tell me what you think.
The world is changing as I write this. There are more people accepting of homosexuals, and more and more people are coming out. Most of the youth today get the courage to come out of the closet younger because they see that homosexuals are regular people. If you watch any of the TV shows today, you would see at least one homosexual character. And rightfully so! We are part of humanity.
My friends who are straight, and who are very accepting of homosexuality are not threatened by us. They support us and they love us in the same level as they love their straight friends. I don’t feel that I will go straight to hell anymore simply because I’m gay. If I am a promiscuous gay person, I still may go to hell. If I am a gay person who murders anyone – yes, I still believe that heaven won’t be the place for me. But that’s just it. Being gay alone is not enough reason for me to think that God will condemn me with eternal damnation.
Happy Saturday! 
Unfortunately, it would take 3 days for me to watch that clip on my dinosaur dial-up connection, so I’m unable to comment on it. Well… I could still comment on it but it would be out of pure ignorance of its contents! Heh.
There are a number of gay people in my life, and I’ve always found them to be anything but the evil, hysteria inducing stereotype that certain sections of the community would have us believe.
In fact, very few of these even act like what the media would have us believe gay men to be like… effeminate with high pitched, sometimes catty voices and power mincing everywhere. Nope, the homosexual folks I know act just like regular people, not like 2 dimensional characters out of Dharma & Greg!
While I agree that attitudes towards homsosexuals have come far, I would add that there’s still an awful lot of education that needs to happen. The best education, I find, is to simply be friends with the gays in my life. There’s nothing like getting to know someone to break down misconceptions. Works every time.
I don’t really know if being a homosexual is really a choice or not. But I am homosexual myself, and I still don’t know if it’s right or wrong. But I stopped questioning myself and I stopped resisting, I just let it be, let it flow naturally. I raised my questions to God as he has the power to change me if it is His will.
I think that the most important thing in living is to just be who you are. There is more and more evidence that there is a genetic component. Homosexuals are still receive the most prejudice among all of the minority groups.
I think that it is interesting that you are the last in ten…because of the statistics regarding bith order.
Hello Geo and thanks for visiting my blog again. I like your attitude. Alwasy remember.. God is love. Regardless of gender, race or anything else – He loves you.
hi cc! Isn’t it? Very interesting that I turned out to be gay and the science about it.. haha! Mind you – five older brothers.. what odds …
wow well, choice or not? such a common question and topic that i run into. i knew very young that i was “different” i couldn’t put a name to it until i got to the 6th grade and heard the word lesbian for the first time. i cried. and cried when i read up on it and learned more. i was ashamed of myself, i didnt want to upset my parents and offend God. it took me a long time to accept myself. i wasn’t proud of who i was till my sophomore year of high school. i am now a 19 year old college sophomore. i’ve had incredibly bad experiences with the church regarding my sexual preference and at current time my fiances parents are very disapproving of her and especially myself. they much rather i not exist. she’s christian and i have renounced my catholic religion. i believe in God and all his love and glory but find it hard to get myself back into a church. my bad experiences have shot me down. ive expressed to my fiance the desire to attend church with her but her parents want me nowhere near her so everyday is a struggle at this time until we are able to live on our own. i wish that somehow we could get through to her parents. and i wish that i could get into the christian church and find the strength and love i once had again.
God is always there.. your struggles are the same struggles I had to wrestle with. Please do find a church where you will feel comfortable about your sexuality. It is important to know that God loves you no matter what.
I guess you have a fiancee at 19. Just a little advice – - take it slow. If you will end up with each other – that’s great! But do pray and ask for God to guide you in every way.
My prayers are with you..
Pax
gaychristians
The wrong question is being asked here. Are your homosexual desires a choice? Probably not. Is your response to your homosexual desires a choice? Yes, as much as anybody’s response to their sexual desires is a choice.
If your actions are your choice, and you want to live the Christian life, then you can commit yourself to celibacy. Oh get past it. Single Christians are asked to do it. Married Christians are asked to live monogamously. That’s the reality of the Christian walk. Its no greater a challenge for you than it is for anyone else.
Hello B Fast.
I am actually NOT surprised that you are equating homosexual desires to simply a sexual desire to sinful ways such as adultery and promiscuity. That is how you were made to believe and I won’t argue with you because I don’t intend to change your belief. Promiscuity and adultery are sins regardless if you’re homosexual or not. The love (outside of just sex whether gay or straight) between two people who commit to each other (marriage for straight people as we are not allowed to get married just yet) is not a sin to me. I can’t play God to say that you are wrong and I am right or vice versa – - but to live humbly and simply without hurting anyone is what I aim to do in this world. To love my neighbor as I love myself. That’s all. A challenge for everyone is not to step outside of that commitment.